During the process of healing and growing, it can be difficult sometimes to focus in on what we need, on what we should do and in what direction we should go. Many factors and distractions can fill our thoughts and we can become overwhelmed and confused.
The latest blog at 4MAT talks about “doing more with less;” in other words, focusing on just a few behaviours to get the results we want (http://4mat4business.com/blog/). They ask some simple but powerful questions to help you focus in on one thing that can deliver the results you desire in your life or your work place:
- What do you want?
- Why do you want it?
- How will you know when you achieve it?
- What are all the steps you could take to achieve that outcome?
- What can you learn from others who have already achieved it?
- What does this tell you about the behaviors that you need to execute consistently to achieve your outcome?
The next question you might ask is, “What if I’m not sure of what I want?” You can answer that with a couple more questions, “What brings me joy?” and “What situation would make me happy?” It might take some time to answer these questions, so don’t get discouraged if the answers don’t magically appear. Write the questions and your answers to add even more power to them.
If you’re still having trouble focusing, try two simple techniques to let go of all the distractions and everything else you don’t need, and to bring quiet and calm to your being:
- Say silently (in your own words): I let go of everything that isn’t serving my highest good, right now, and let it fall into the earth. Imagine all the “stuff” around you falling like rocks into the earth. Do this as often as you need during the day.
- Find your Line of Calm, my simplest and most effective technique: Visualize a horizontal line in front of you; make it white or any colour you find calming. Extend it to the left, all the way to infinity and focus on it for a second while thinking “Calm.” Extend it to the right, all the way to infinity and focus on it for a second while thinking “Calm.” Say silently: I am calm.
I use my Line of Calm technique almost every day. Once you’ve done it a few times, your body remembers the technique–kind of like learning to ride a bike–and all you have to do is visualize your entire Line of Calm and focus on it for one or two seconds.
Let me know what works for you when you feel overwhelmed and need to focus.